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Well our wedding is in a little over 1 week...and I'm actually doing okay. For now. The day before and the day of...probably not.
I get stressed and overwhelmed very easily, so I'll be going along very well and then quickly become upset, worried, and even irritated. My poor fiance, I can't believe he still wants to marry me! Wink

I'm really not that bad, but I am aware of the fact that the stress has been slowly wearing on me the last few months as the wedding has been getting closer...making my nerves a little shorter than usual.

So...any advice for the events leading up to the wedding and the day of? What was the one thing that helped you the most? What was the best thing you decided to do that day to relax? What was the worst thing you did to freak yourself out?
I've head it goes by very quickly, so try to "stop and smell the flowers". Hilarious. Our photographer will be pulling us aside every spare moment we get, when we aren't visiting with guests. Any advice to help us enjoy the day?

Also, I am aware that my fiance will be an absolute, horrible nervous wreck that day. He is terrified of public speaking (which is why I'll be addressing the guests when required) and he is incredibly quiet when around large groups of people. Anything I can do/say to help him feel more calm, short of handing him hard liquor?

Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2011 11:24 pm Post subject:

Unfortunately I don't think my wedding day will help you any at all. We lived in Charlotte, NC at the time and got married in my husband's home town of Fayetteville, NC which is about a 4 hour drive. We both worked 2nd shift at the time and both worked the night before we got married. I got off work at 11pm, went home and basically took a couple hour nap. Got up at 5am, packed what needed packed in the car, drove to now hubby's apt, picked him up at 6am and we packed what we needed to of his. He then drove the 4 hours to Fayetteville. We stopped and got breakfast at a fast food place (don't remember which one) then went to the church for rehearsal at 11:00am. After rehearsal went to hubby's sister's place where all family had gathered for lunch. Then drove back to church for 5pm wedding, had wedding, had dinner catered at church fellowship hall type area. Were there for awhile, then packed the car at the church and drove all the way back to Concord, NC (where hubby's apt was) and went to bed. Basically the day before I was working so had to concentrate on work and didn't think about the wedding. The day of the wedding I was literally so tired I wasn't nervous since I was spending most of my energy trying not to fall asleep. I wouldn't exactly recommend doing it the way we did, but I will promise you I wasn't nervous.

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2011 1:54 am Post subject:

Ummmm, advice.... any liquor should be odorless so nobody realizes you've been hitting the sauce! Wink

The week before your wedding has to be better than mine was!

8 days before my wedding I got a call at work that the bridal party dresses were not going to be in before the wedding. The dresses that had been ordered 5.5 months before the wedding.

7 days before my wedding was spent in a panic trying to find bridal party dresses.
Did I mention we also had an outbreak of tornadoes while we were all at the mall that evening? We did find dresses that were the wrong color so my wedding had 2 colors instead of just 1.

6 days before my wedding I ended up in the hospital for an overnight stay and stitches so I wasn't allowed to pick anything up that was over 10 lbs.

The day of my wedding was a thousand degrees, no A/C in the church, and severe storm warnings!

And the whole time I was having to finish up the wedding flowers and pack for our move from Illinois to New Mexico.
We got married on the 26th and on the 30th we loaded up a U-Haul and left.

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2011 10:08 am Post subject:

I've been working on this recently - a young neighbor is being married a week from tomorrow. I'm kind of her stand-in mom until hers arrives from Florida next Wednesday. So you get the benefit of my planning.

Pack an emergency kit of sorts. Aspirin, stomach remedies, safety pins, bobby pins, bandaids, baby wipes. At the FIRST sign of any somach ailments - take something. When I got married the stress of dealing with our parents had me on the verge of a nervous breakdown. The day after the wedding I was sick all day.

EAT! Seriously, you need to remember to eat regular meals. If necessary, write out a schedule for the week and mark down meals. Cross them off as you eat so you remember to do it. DRINK! Not alcochol (or maybe you should) but stay hydrated. Remember to keep him fed and hydrated as well. Schedule sleeping time and make it reasonable. 4 hours a night is not reasonable. Assume that everything you have to do will take twice as long as usual and build that time into your schedule.

Remember - the wedding is not the important thing, the marriage is. It's just one day. Thirty years from now you will have many other days you deem more important - birth of first child, wedding of child, etc.

Finally - plan for cat & dog puke. Trust me on this. Rolling Eyes

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2011 3:37 pm Post subject:

Make sure someone has a needle and thread for quick fixes. My dress ripped on the way out of the limo. Be ready for some emergency, but don't overreact. Don't cry too much. Other than that ENJOY it. I loved my wedding, the best party ever.

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2011 9:20 pm Post subject:

Congratulations!

First of all, expect something to go wrong. Because something always does go wrong. So, when that something goes wrong you can relax and say, "Well, there it is. I knew something would go wrong; and there it is."

And try to remember that this is a celebration of finding the person you love. Everything else is just window dressing. So, who cares if the frosting on the cake drips or the Bridesmaid has a wardrobe malfunction on the dance floor?That will just add to the story later on.

Have a great day! And a happily ever after!

Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2011 11:39 pm Post subject:

Congratulations on getting married! On my wedding day I was fine. I just kept thinking about going on my honeymoon. The entire week before I was a wreck. Our best man was in a bad car accident, so we had to find a replacement a few days before the wedding. Also, two days before the wedding my MIL was hospitalized. Other than that things went well. I am big on lists. I make to do lists for everything all the time. I would sit down and make a list and break it down into what you need to accomplish each day. Then mark it off when you are done. Also, I recommend meditation and getting enough sleep every night, being tired can make little things seem much bigger. Just remember what the day is really about, making a life long commitment to the one you love.

Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 12:26 pm Post subject:

Can't agree more with those who say "something will go wrong" ---our organist didn't show up ---he wanted to watch the Twins game Rolling Eyes

the soloist called a friend who happened to be at a beach party ---showed up in a beach cover up and flip flops ---thank goodness for choir lofts Laughing

It only delayed the start time by 45 minutes Laughing

------that and the fact my hubby's frat friends decorated his car (only problem it was the minister's car Laughing

--same color make etc which was safely in a neighbors garage ---he had used the neighbors car Laughing

Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 6:30 pm Post subject:

Relax and enjoy-let someone else worry. Todays horror story is next years funny story, and 30 years from now is a warm romantic memory, possibly to be shared with the kids.

Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2011 6:42 pm Post subject:

Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 7:50 pm Post subject:

well, my wedding story. If you have a train thats supposed to be hooked to your dress (the maid of honor usually does this) make sure it works. mine didnt; I had to carry the train through the whole ceremony. I lost both the train and and the headgear at the receptiopn. lol

Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2011 6:56 pm Post subject:

kutin, I am so very excited for you! I can't believe that in the 7 years that I have been here that I have seen you grow from an animal loving teen into a mature young woman who is about to be married! I send my best wishes to you and want you to have the very best day you can. Don't sweat it and don't let it stress you out. It's really just another day and then life goes on. Don't get hung up on the wedding part, it's just a little piece of your future life.

Good luck! I am so happy for you.

Posted: Tue Oct 18, 2011 1:47 am Post subject:

Oh, honey, so excited for you. The first year is challenging, so don't be surprised or think you guys aren't normal. If it isn't challenging- THAT'S not normal, lol! My best friends on my wedding day were Emetrol and Immodium AD, and I'm not the nervous type. My digestive system went haywire that day! Things went wrong, the caterer embarrassed us by going table to table and apologizing to our guests because we chose not to have liquor at our wedding. Somehow the music we brought to play was replaced by Abba Shocked

, and the hotel we selected for our wedding night was definately NOT what we expected or wanted. Think hair on pillows and space heater only, that hadn't been turned on prior to our arrival. We're almost 5 years in now, and most of those things make for funny memories. I know that right now the wedding is the focal point of everything, but bear in mind, it's only a short moment in time. The marriage is forever, and will require much more of you than you can ever imagine! Much more than the wedding, even though it's sucking the life out of you right now (in a good way of course). Learn everything you can about marriage, read good books and talk to older ladies that have been successfully married for a long time. It helps so, so much. Your husband won't be as interested in these things, and that will irritate you probably.... let it go. It's not that he doesn't care, he's just different!

Our ceremony was perfect, exactly what we wanted, and I look back on that today with great joy and satisfaction. Not so much that your veil hangs just so, or that you say your vows perfectly, but that you and your husband to be are able to share what's in your hearts with everyone there. For us, it was our faith and our commitment to a lifetime of marriage. I am grateful for the wonderful ceremony, it makes the memories of the reception bearable. Rolling Eyes

My bustle fell down about 10X, but thankfully not during the ceremony or pictures!

OH, pictures, make sure you think about what you want and make sure the photographer knows it. Don't be too nice to say hey, I want a few posed shots or outside shots or whatever. You'll regret not being a nazi about your pictures forever! Pay attention to the backgrounds of the pictures, so you aren't shocked later when you notice an open closet behind your wedding party, and so forth.

Best of everything to both of you. May your special day be everything you want, and nothing you don't!

Posted Tue Oct 18, 2011 1:53 am:

Oh, my H has a passionate phobia of speaking in front of even small groups, hates being the center of attention, and has been socially anxious his whole life. Our pastor had to nearly drag him out of the bathroom before the ceremony. Somehow, something takes over and you go through the motions, it's like autopilot. He'll be a wreck until the moment he sees you coming down the aisle, then he'll motor on through it, forgetting the crowd for a while. It's a merciful absence from reality, at least for us it was. You forget for a few minutes that everyone else is there.

Posted: Wed Oct 26, 2011 11:48 pm Post subject:

I can't believe OUR Kutin got married!!!!!!

Congratulations sweetie!!!!!!!

Here is wishing you a lifetime of love, happiness and most of all LAUGHTER!

Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2011 12:57 pm Post subject:

Waiting for thread with wedding pics, and a detailed account of how it all went! The good, bad, ugly, priceless, and epic fails too.

I'm sure you were absolutely beautiful.

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