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mom2cocoa Joined: 10 Aug 2006 Total posts: 2619 |
 Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 1:23 pm
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| Stacey Webb wrote: |  HF!
I would maybe be angry and unsupportive too, if both my teen daughters were pregnant and/or mothers already, with boyfriends (instead of husbands), and needing me to ferry them around town to doctor's appointments and whatnot. In fact, I would probably tell them that if they thought they could support not one, but two babies so close together, that they should get their own car and own apartment and become the independant adults they thought they were ready to be. But that's why it's a good thing I have sons, although if my sons at 18 and 19 get someone pregnant, they will be working, paying me rent, paying child support, because I firmly believe that if a person is old enough to get preggers/ get someone else preggers, they are old enough to have some personal responsibility.
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I agree!
You are 18, legally your mom does not have to support you at all anymore, in any way. Now, when young people are responsible and at least try to make good decisions parents tend to be a little more open to helping them out when they need it. Being a parent is tireless work, and you don't get much thanks for it if any at all. And we are only hearing one side of the story also.
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| BakeryBites |
Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 2:10 pm
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You're an adult with all adult responsibilities. Stop depending on the relationship with your mother for anything. If she wants to go to an appointment with you, let her know the time and date you're leaving and she can ride with you.
As nice as it is to imagine what roles a parent is supposed to play in our life.... that doesn't happen. Instead you have to work with what you have. If I were in your shoes I'd probably phase Mom out. Let her know the ball is in her court and continue on your merry way.
Posted Mon Jun 09, 2008 2:12 pm:
Were you on here before you had your first child and before you were married? You remind me of a girl that was on here awhile back. She was 15 or 16 I think. Anyhow, she was having a lot of issues with her pregnant sister and her boyfriend mooching off her Mom. |
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| mrs.cancela2008 |
Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 6:29 pm
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| hi...no this is my 1st time here...so that's weird if someone else was or is going though the same thhink..what happend to her? |
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court
Joined: 09 Mar 2005 Total posts: 4815 Location: my office Gender: Female |
Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 6:51 pm
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having a child is the responsibility of the parents, NOT the grandparents.
when my son was born. my mom said straight out "dont ecpect me to babysit". she worked full time. she did anyway, on occasion, but she wanted me to know that she was not a "drop off" grandparent.
her point was the child was MINE...not hers. and she wouldnt take responsibility for raising him
its the best thing she ever did. I learned to take responsibility for my own child, not requiring someone else to do it.
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| GSRT |
Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 6:59 pm
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| Welcome to petfinder. Do you share your life with any animals? |
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| mrs.cancela2008 |
Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 7:10 pm
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| YES! it was MY own house that the food was resticted!!! but I do not want money things or anything from my mom...ONLY her love and time....is that too much? and yes I have a Pit Bull-Black Magic a doberman Princess Beauty and a cat-Meow.(my son named him lol) |
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SalemsDad
Joined: 10 Dec 2004 Total posts: 930 Location: South Carolina Age: 46 Gender: Male |
Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:17 pm
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| How old were you when you started having babies? |
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| BakeryBites |
Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 7:31 pm
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I don't remember what happened to her. I think she got chased off after posting her personal life stories too often and not heeding the advice.
I'd just tell your Mom how you feel and than let her know the next move is up to her. If she wants to be a part of your life, she'll have to be the one to make the effort. |
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Mutts4Me
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Total posts: 10922 |
Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 7:54 pm
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I voted.....
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lanhimom
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Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 8:44 pm
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| I don't vote. |
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SalemsDad
Joined: 10 Dec 2004 Total posts: 930 Location: South Carolina Age: 46 Gender: Male |
Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:27 pm
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| There wasn't an option that matched how I would have voted... |
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Mutts4Me
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Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 5:45 am
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Does she have a right to be mad at her mom??
Yes or No.....
I voted...... 
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| auntieris |
Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 5:51 am
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Me too. I only vote for important things like this. You should vote Lanhi. It is your right.  |
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Melinda
Joined: 28 Oct 2003 Total posts: 2892 Location: Texas Age: 33 Gender: Female |
Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 9:49 am
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| SalemsDad wrote: | | There wasn't an option that matched how I would have voted... |
Nope, not for me, either. |
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| BaileysMom |
Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 2:47 pm
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Do you have your own vehicle? Own place? Are you financially on your feet? It is always amazing to me how quickly people rush into having babies when they can barely support themselves. Sorry, you probably didn't want to hear that.... after this baby do you plan on getting on birth control? It sounds like you are financially overwhelmed as it is and should not be taking on anymore children. I personally do not feel that you should be mad at your mother OR jealous of your sister...
Nicole
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